May 26


Watching Your Kids Blow Your Money

Our feline companions seem to have developed a peculiar hobby. It's become an almost routine event to discover gifts from them in our bathroom. It started with lizards, some alive, some not, which didn't strike us as too unusual. However, their game escalated over the past week.

One morning, my wife was greeted by a snake at the crack of dawn. Thankfully, it was no longer among the living, as snakes particularly unnerve her. The latest surprise was a live bird that found its way into our humble abode, courtesy of our adventurous cats.

Fortunately, Venice Wildlife Rescue was able to step in and attend to the wayward bird. It appears that Coconut is the chief huntress, with the other two cats taking cues from her. The lesson we've learned from all this? Keep the lanai door firmly shut!

Above you will see the boys and dog enjoying a swim in the rain.

How much money is going to pass to heirs in the next 30 years?

According to Time magazine, the number could reach over $30 trillion. Yes, that is $30,000,000,000,000.

Today I am going to offer an alternative to leaving money to your kids.
Whenever I create long-term spending plans for my clients, I often hear, “But Dave, I understand you want us to start spending some money as soon as we retire, but we don’t need the money. We don’t even know what to do with it. We’ve learned to live frugally over the past forty years. We really don’t need anything else.”

“It’s awesome that you’ve built up those habits,” I’ll usually reply, “That is a big part of why you are in your position. But if you don’t use your money, someone else will—maybe the government, maybe your heirs—but you need to seriously think about what this money is FOR. No one will ever be as good a steward of your savings as you."

For maximum impact, let me say that again: No one will ever be as good a steward of your savings as you.

You’ve worked for it, earned it, and appreciate it. You have a more intimate connection to your money than anyone else ever could.

You hear about it all the time. Kids inherit their parent’s money and it causes discord. They waste it. They fight with their siblings. They don’t treat it with the same care and respect as their parents.  I don't care how responsible your kids are.  They will never view the money they got as an inheritance the same way as their own savings.

Athletes sign huge contracts, oftentimes straight out of school. They blow through the money because they weren’t prepared for it.

Many lottery winners say that winning the jackpot was one of the worst things that has ever happened to them. They don’t know how to steward the money because they didn’t earn it.

Of course, you need to do the appropriate planning to ensure you don’t outspend your savings, but once you make sure you are not mortgaging your future, you get to start determining how you want to spend the money-right now.

I want to be very clear. I am not asking you to become materialistic. I am merely suggesting that you start living with a renewed sense of opportunity.

Which brings me back to your kids (or other loved ones). As opposed to leaving them a large lump sum of money at your death, I think there’s a better way.

Give them a little bit each month now. Or, put another way, dole out their inheritance a little bit at a time for the next 20 or 30 years.

Of course, we don’t want to enable our children; you will have to make that determination.

You already know that I passionately believe that you should consider spending 5 percent of your retirement savings each year, starting the first year of your retirement. Some of that money could go to your kids now.
The benefits are numerous.

Benefit #1: Your kids are in their twenties, thirties, and forties which are the most complicated and difficult times in somebody’s financial life. They are having children. They are buying homes. They are starting careers. This is when they need the money. By the time you’re gone, your kids could be in their sixties and seventies.

Benefit #2: You are able to see your kids actually use and appreciate the money. You get to attend your granddaughter’s piano recital (you paid for the lessons). You get to see the relief on your son’s face when he realizes they are able to replace the car that keeps breaking down.

Benefit #3: You are able to see how your kids treat the money. Are they acting responsibly? Are they making good financial decisions? Better yet, you can mentor and guide them on how to better manage their assets. And if they blow your cash?

Well, it’s certainly better you know now.

Benefit #4: It is tax efficient. Taking a little money from your retirement accounts each month stretches out the tax liability. It is much better to take a little bit of money out each month versus large lump sums here and there.

(Mega) Benefit #5: You are teaching your kids an incredible lesson about generosity. Your kids get to see firsthand that Mom and Dad are not materialistic, nor are Mom and Dad overly stingy. Mom and Dad place value on what really IS valuable. Relationships. Family. Love and kindness.

If your kids see your generosity, they will grow to be generous themselves. Your legacy will last for generations.

Be Blessed,


P.S.-  I have started doing LIVE in-person Social Security workshops at Der Dutchman (on Bahia Vista) in Sarasota.  To register go to

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